this is not my dress. this is a BIG dress. a heavy dress.
Highstepping into a big, ballgown, strapless wedding dress, I tried not to look too closely in the mirror until I was zipped and clipped in.
Body image issues, bridal style.
Magnified by layers of tulle or disguised under heavy lace.
My inaugural wedding dress shopping experience left me feeling frustrated with this body of mine, and wondering about what kind of dress would feel right.
I am not a princess.
I do not want to utter that stock bridal phrase, "I feel like a princess," at any time during this betrothal-wedding process.
I want to recognize myself in the mirror, whether clad in lace or tulle or denim or cotton.
I left the shop, glad for the fun outing with two of my attendants/best friends, Mom, and Grandma, but unsatisfied with the dresses themselves.
On Monday, back in Wisconsin, I drove diagonally across the state to Premiere Couture, a dress boutique on one of my favorite streets in Madison. Once I walked into the shop, I felt hopeful.
Laura selected several dresses for me based on my descriptions of what I wanted. The dresses were light, elegant, bridal, and beautiful. No overwhelming tulle or heavy laces. Just pretty gowns.
The first one I tried on looked and felt...like me only...bridal. I loved it.
While not all the dresses felt like me, they all felt sophisticated and bridal and relevant. The collection at Premiere Couture stands out; as Laura said, they have dresses for women. (not princesses, I thought).
Readers, I bought the first dress I tried here and I love it. I can't describe it just yet, but I can tell you that I feel absolutely beautiful, elegant, romantic, and absolutely accepting of my body as it is right now in this dress. And that is amazing.
Now, if I can just find some back-to-school clothes that elicit that same feeling:)